This is what I would tell my 14 year old self if I was given the chance, however, I don’t think my fourteen year old self would listen.
Dear 14 year old self,
You lived through high school, surprisingly enough. It isn’t so bad either. Your Junior and Senior year, you only have to go half a day. That may be what saved us, or you, or the future you, I suppose. We always want information about our future, so this is what you’re getting. After high school, you make it to college. You’re tempted to make a fool of yourself on a regular basis, but most of the time your reason and good judgment win. In college, we have done some crazy things. You’ll get hurt by a friend, only to find that that hurt will lead you to something amazing. All in a single semester, you will become a different, more mature person.
Why am I telling you all of this, knowing that you will eventually find out? Because I want you to realize what I couldn’t. Everything that happens is just a building block to make you into the person that you can be happy with. Don’t grow up to fast. Don’t hate the world, because the rest of the world is standing in similar shoes to the ones you are wearing now, trying hard to become who they need to be. Spend more time doing what you love, and being who you are. Welcome to your life.
–Your older, wiser self.
It’s surprising to me that not only does this letter apply to my fourteen year old self, it also applies to my now twenty year old self. To slow down and take life as it comes at you is something that has been drilled into every young child by their parents, and this drilling was no different in my life. For some reason the lesson just doesn’t seem to stick. Instead of slowing down or just existing at a normal speed, I feel like I am constantly adding new things to my list and life’s pace seems to always be set at fast.
How do we gain control over our lives? Better yet, how do we gain control over our own choices? How do we who live life at super speed learn to say no and slow down?
Well, that is a question for another day, and another blog.