I was in a RUT. It probably was deeper than a rut. You might call it a trench. At five in the morning when I’m ready to hook the coffee machine up to myself for a more direct caffeine route, I probably would have called it a moat, like the kind that is crawling with alligators and crocodiles and flesh-eating piranhas. I just wasn’t in a good place creatively. At this point I could make a bunch of excuses for myself, like the holidays (which inevitably put me in a weird funk) or the fact that I was sick all of Thanksgiving Break, but if I’m being really honest, the funk started on the first really cold day of this year, back in November. It was a weird day, and it set me into a weird creative space that I’ve been trying to escape since.
Luckily for me, though, I’m not going at this writing thing alone. Yesterday I got to talk with Ashley and it was the best. I can’t tell you how much better I felt after our hour conversation! It was like she made the dark clouds of doubt and frustration disappear with her positivity (and in some ways her shared frustrations).
I’ve done this writing thing by myself for years. I did it by myself in college because I felt like I didn’t fit in with all the people that I was in classes with. That was mostly true, but I didn’t take full advantage of the opportunities that I had. Maybe I just wasn’t ready yet. After college I mostly put writing on the back burner. I was working and being a wife and making a life here in NWA. When I started back writing, I didn’t have that support group, and trying to do it alone meant that I latched onto things like NaNoWriMo, looking desperately for that community.
A real person is way better. Ashley balances out a lot of my crazy. When I want to give up, she tells me that I can’t. When I think that I’m dumb, she agrees, then tells me she’s kidding. I seriously wouldn’t have been able to accomplish all that I have in the past six months without her. So, what is this post actually about?
If you are a writer and you are doing it alone- go find a writing partner. Ashley and I didn’t even know each other before we started on this journey. I just read her blog and sent her an email and several months later, here we are! Having a support system, one that goes beyond my friends and family, makes the writing that much more real. I wouldn’t have given up if I hadn’t found a writing partner, but I don’t think that I would be as far along as I am. So, take a risk, put yourself out there! Find your writing person!